Each couple has a story... Ours started on July 15th 2005 when I realized I wanted to marry her. I was so excited that I immediately wanted to tell my best friend, so I turned to Loraine, got down on my knees and told her how I felt.
The next day, Loraine's mom flew in to visit from Puerto Rico, and Loraine decided to welcome her with a Caribbean feast. The main dish was Guineitos en Escabeche (a Puerto Rican green banana salad)! She went a little overboard on the portions for two. There was so much leftovers that when friends from 3 other apartments came over to socialize she was able to offer some to everyone. She couldn't help but notice that not only was Josh from one of those neighboring three apartments, but that he kept coming back for more. Unbeknownst to her, Josh wasn’t so much enamored with the unique dish, as he simply hadn't had an opportunity to go grocery shopping yet.
The next few days Josh, Loraine (and her mom) were inseparable. The very next Saturday while Loraine was out, he called and invited both Loraine and her mom out to a piano recital. The intention was to attend along with some roommates, but they fortunately couldn't attend at the last minute, so Loraine and Josh went on their very first date with her mom as chaperone.
After three and a half weeks from that first Sunday, there was a salsa dance advertised on campus. This time by themselves, Loraine got to witness how adorably awkward Josh was when it came to dancing. She told herself it really didn't matter too much; “He can learn, right?” That night as they walked home after the dance, Josh just stopped them mid-conversation under a street lamp. He nervously got down on both knees (Loraine jokingly says he was begging), and poured out his feelings and told Loraine how he felt around her, and how he didn't want it to end. Loraine felt the same way. Although there was not a single soul to witness the most important decision Josh and Loraine made, they both knew that it felt right. For most, two and a half weeks of dating is not enough to really get to know the person you are about to marry, but for Loraine and Josh, it was enough for them to decide to start the wonderful journey that is marriage together.
Loraine was at the front of the auditorium being used as a chapel, preparing to direct the hymns. She was a little overwhelmed, since she knew that with all the music students in the congregation, someone would probably see that she had decided to memorize the parts rather than reading the notes in the hymn book (Loraine has always sung at a high volume, something Josh adores about her!) She had to remind herself that it was all voluntary and she loved to sing; “Just enjoy it while it lasts,” she told herself. It was then that she looked up from the music and noticed him walk in, wearing a white shirt and tie and a black Mr. Rogers-esque sweater vest. As she watched him find a seat among the congregation, all the worrying melted away. She had to force herself to stop staring at him across the large auditorium and allowed her roommate who was on the piano to start playing the intro to the hymn and conducted the music trying to make eye contact and smiling with everyone while they all sang congregational hymns, hoping that she wasn't too obvious that she lingered ever so slightly with the young man in the black sweater vest.
After the sermons ended, Loraine volunteered to conduct Sunday school. All the new summer students introduced themselves. Thankfully, he was the second person to stand up. With some awkwardness, he started "I’m Josh, I’m from Kansas, and I’m probably just going to take summer classes here and then go back to KU." "Jerk! Why would you just attend college somewhere just for the summer," Loraine thought to herself. “Dumbest thing I’ve ever heard! All guys are just confusing!”
After a dozen or so more introductions, it was Loraine’s turn to introduce herself and start Sunday school. Josh looked up to see the Puerto Rican and thought to himself "Wow… Just, wow! He contemplated asking her out, and then thought better of it. “She’s way out of my league,” he lamented.
Summer 2005. Loraine was frequently finding herself on her knees, wondering why she hadn't met the right guy yet. Granted, she had been raised in Puerto Rico, and the dating game here in the states was elaborate and confusing! "Who asks out a girl without even knowing her name?!" Loraine would ask herself in one particularly vexing instance. "Why did he leave for an intramural game while we were still at the dinner table and have his roommate to drive me home?" "Why did he ask me out for a double blind date for his friend?!" It was annoying and she hated it! She wondered why guys couldn't just say what they meant and get the whole guessing part over with. It seemed as if all of of her roommates had someone to call ‘honey.’
Loraine eventually started to contemplate moving schools. A particular school in Hawaii that she was considering didn't seem like a bad option. She did after all miss the sandy beaches and salty ocean splashing on her feet! Since her mom was going to come for a visit, she was determined to finish the summer in Utah and transfer over to Hawaii. She was tired of all the guessing and asking guys out on dates! She capitulated and stopped praying to meet “the one,” and started praying that transferring schools would work. The inspiration to forget about her dating situation and get back to work came into her mind. And then that Sunday came.
Our Wedding photo by Fife Photography
How We Stay
We cannot imagine life without each other! The very reason we wake up early each day is to try to get ahead and work before our son needs to wake up for school. We actively try our very best to focus on each other's needs by spending time with each other and serving one another before focusing on ourselves. There is plenty of time to think of ourselves, instead we like to invest in time with each other.
A combination of sweet and healthy can go a LONG way! We love to try out new foods, and also love keeping each other well fed!
Josh has a sweet tooth while Loraine is more of a carnivore!
We don't always get to be in front of the camera together, but we sure love experiencing life with our son anywhere and everywhere we go! Regardless if the memory is big or small, we love spending time together because we get to enjoy who we are with each other.
Josh & Loraine